IN-PERSON & ONLINE COUPLES COUNSELING IN NEWBURY PARK & ACROSS CA

Rekindling connection. Rebuilding trust. Rediscovering joy.

Counseling for couples seeking to strengthen their bond, navigate challenges, and create a thriving relationship.

Your relationship deserves more than just survival—it deserves to thrive.

You remember a time when your relationship felt effortless, filled with joy and deep connection. But lately, it feels like you and your partner are drifting apart or caught in cycles of conflict that leave you both feeling hurt and misunderstood.

Maybe you find yourselves having the same arguments over and over, never really resolving anything. The playfulness and intimacy that once came so naturally now feel forced or absent altogether. You might be dealing with a significant breach of trust, like infidelity, that's left you questioning everything. Or perhaps life transitions—a new baby, an empty nest, career changes—have created distance between you that you don't know how to bridge.

Communication breakdowns leave you feeling unheard and misunderstood. You long for the emotional and physical intimacy you once shared, but don't know how to reconnect. The stress of daily life—work, finances, family obligations—seems to be pulling you apart rather than bringing you closer together. You might even be questioning if you're still right for each other, wondering if it's possible to recapture the love and connection that brought you together in the first place.

Whether you're newlyweds navigating the early years of marriage, long-term partners facing a crossroads, or somewhere in between, the weight of these challenges can feel overwhelming. You want to fight for your relationship, but you're not sure where to start.

Relationship challenges often look like…

  • Lack of quality time

  • Differing life goals

  • Infidelity recovery

  • Parenting disagreements

  • Financial stress

  • Emotional distance

  • Constant arguments

  • Communication breakdowns

  • Loss of intimacy

  • Trust issues

  • Feeling disconnected

  • Unresolved conflicts

HOW WE CAN HELP

Our approach to couples counseling combines evidence-based methods to help you and your partner reconnect, resolve conflicts, and build a stronger, more fulfilling relationship.

We primarily use two powerful counseling modalities: the Gottman Method and Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT).

Using the Gottman Method, we'll work together to strengthen your friendship, manage conflicts constructively, and create shared meaning in your relationship. This approach helps you build a "sound relationship house" with tools for better communication and emotional connection. We'll focus on enhancing your love maps (understanding each other's inner worlds), fostering fondness and admiration, and turning towards each other in daily interactions.

Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) helps us identify and transform negative interaction patterns into positive ones. We'll explore the emotions underlying your behaviors, fostering a secure emotional bond and deepening your connection. EFT allows us to address attachment needs and create new patterns of emotional responsiveness, leading to lasting change in your relationship dynamics.

Throughout our sessions, we'll:

  • Improve communication skills, helping you express needs and listen empathetically

  • Identify and break free from destructive patterns of interaction

  • Rebuild trust and heal from past hurts

  • Rekindle intimacy and physical connection

  • Develop strategies for managing conflicts effectively

  • Align your values and goals for the future

  • Strengthen your emotional bond and sense of partnership

We understand that every couple is unique, and we tailor our approach to your specific needs and challenges. Whether you're dealing with infidelity, navigating major life transitions, or simply wanting to deepen your connection, we're here to support you every step of the way.

Our goal is not just to help you overcome current challenges, but to equip you with the skills and insights to continue strengthening your relationship long after counseling ends.

Couples counseling can help you…

Rebuild trust and intimacy

Improve communication and understanding

Resolve conflicts more effectively

Rediscover joy and playfulness in your relationship

Create a shared vision for your future together

As you work through the process of couples therapy, you'll find yourselves growing not just as a couple, but as individuals. This is your opportunity to create the relationship you've always wanted—one built on deep understanding, mutual respect, and lasting love.

Therapists who can help

Our therapists are extensively trained in couples therapy, using evidence-based approaches that promote real change and lasting connection.

Your journey to a stronger relationship starts here.

FAQS

Frequently asked questions

  • While individual therapy focuses on personal growth and individual challenges, couples therapy centers on the relationship dynamics between partners. In couples therapy, the relationship itself is the "client." We work on improving communication, understanding patterns of interaction, and fostering emotional connection between partners.

  • One common misconception is that couples therapy is only for relationships in severe distress or on the brink of separation. In reality, couples at all stages can benefit from therapy to strengthen their bond and develop better relationship skills. Another myth is that the therapist will take sides or tell you who's "right" in conflicts. Our role is not to judge, but to help you understand each other better and find mutually satisfying solutions.

  • It's common for one partner to be more hesitant about therapy than the other. We encourage you to have an open conversation with your partner about your concerns and hopes for your relationship. Sometimes, starting with a single session can help alleviate fears and demonstrate the potential benefits. Remember, seeking help is a sign of strength and commitment to your relationship.

  • To get the most out of therapy, approach it with an open mind and a willingness to examine your own contributions to relationship dynamics. Be honest in sessions, complete any assigned "homework," and practice the skills you're learning between sessions. Remember, the work you do outside of therapy is just as important as what happens in our sessions.